Monday, February 15, 2016

I'm the Fat Girl!

Dear Rhonda and Dr. Cheri.

Wow, I think I’m the daughter … the one from your column last week. I’m the Fat Girl! And my mom’s story is crap.
My mom didn’t write to help me! She wrote because she thinks she’s a great mom. Well, she is not! She’s mean and makes me feel like a criminal because I’m fat!
My brothers and mom only care about how they look. They don’t care about me. They just want to put me down for being fat and I’m like 30 pounds over-weight! 
All they do is work-out, hike, do yoga and stuff. Like hours a day! They go on hikes or something every weekend and every school break.
No one asks me (ever, ever, ever) what I want to do. I’m bad cause I like movies and candy and fashion. I like doing plays but they hate coming to see me. I asked if I could take singing classes but they didn’t even answer.
I started going into my room cause my mom never wants to be bothered with me. She is the one who said I should move the “family” computer in my room. She wants me out of her way.
I hate all the kids at school who make fun of me for not being a stick Barbie Doll! I loved playing with Barbie dolls and they made fun of me then too.
And my family will never go to therapy! I hate them.
Not a Barbie Doll

Dear Not a Barbie,
We are really glad you wrote to us. We can actually feel your pain through your letter. You do not deserve to feel abandoned and unworthy. Every person is a precious child of God!

Every person on this beautiful earth needs to be loved. It is the core of our lives. You don’t have to earn it. You are the one who decides who you are. You get to say to yourself that you are good, caring, loving, real, and creative.

Your parents need help handling the fact that you are different from them. Not better and certainly not worse.

We want you to follow your valuable dreams and good passions. Stand tall! Look them in the eyes. Don’t engage in conversations about who you are (according to them). Stand up for yourself and think about how you can live our 5 C’s and be happy.

Civility means being good instead of right, being polite, gentle and disagreeing without judging them. Hate is a big ugly word that hurts you the most. Get rid of your hate by screaming into your pillow or writing your anger down and flushing it down your toilet for timed pity-parties.

Do the things you like to do and don’t have any expectations that your family will applaud you. It’s sad and we understand that. But history has shown us the heroes of happiness start when they stop caring about the expectations of others and care about their own high standards.

By the way,  it’s adults who have made Barbie into a psychological nightmare. Kids don’t over-analyze dolls … they just play!

Become confident by saying something good about you every morning to your mirror.

Now, have the courage to show this to your parents! 

Rhonda and Dr. Cheri

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